Every week @tuckermax@charliehoehn and @nilsAparker sit down with me to help with my problems meeting and dating women. I am a pale ginger from Ohio who just moved to Austin.
Being vulnerable and exposing emotions are difficult for men. It is one reason why Tucker spent so much time in therapy. But connecting with friends and girlfriends is essential to living a happy, fulfilling life. Making real connections requires vulnerability, opening yourself up and letting people in to show them who you really are.
Romantic chemistry is exposing one element (you) to another element (her) to see if there’s a reaction (or spark).
“You are not alone in suffering through these issues because culturally we don’t teach our young people how to process these emotions. You don’t have the toolkit to break down these emotions or work through them. So we just put them in boxes and shove them down deep.” – Nils
@ 8:00 – I talk about stories from the book that made me cry
@ 12:00 – Tucker talks about being vulnerable and wide open when he wrote IHTSBIH
@ 13:00 – The Arena, putting yourself out there, making friends
@ 16:00 – Don’t waste the prime years of your life
@ 18:30 – Connections with other people is one of the meanings of life
@ 25:00 – Everyone has these issues, but nobody teaches how to deal with them
@ 36:00 – “There’s going to be a lot of regret that you are going to be deal with.” – Nils
@ 40:30 – “Don’t live your life looking backwards about the bad things you’ve done. Think about
@ 50:00 – Many long-term “players” have the same problem: They aren’t happy, but they just learned to get laid here.
@ 53:00 – Moving Away VS Moving Towards VS Moving Against
@ 59:00 – It’s not about logical. It’s emotion.
@ 1:01:00 – How to do this and get better
@ 1:04:00 – Trust is built a little bit (of vulnerability) at a time
@ 1:06:00 – Nils’s interesting point about Tinder
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